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3.) You know you’re a Mom when…

  1. you find yourself doing/saying the same thing your mother did or said. Even though you said you’d never.
  2. your DVD or TV becomes the babysitter.
  3. you spend you date night worry about the kids. Even though you know they are good and in capable hands , they are still out of your sight and all these “what if’s” cross your mind.
  4. you see and hear another child throw a temper in the store and think “Praise the Lord that’s not my child….today at lest!”
  5. you jump awake from the dead of night with the slightest whimper of “mom”
  6. you have learned to navigate the hallway at 3a.m. in the dark. only to stub your toe on a toy or step on legos and think “why didn’t I tidy the room before bed”
  7. when your hubby wonders why you can’t hear the screaming kid. That’s because you have successfully tuned them out.
  8. you take every moment to hug and kiss your children no matter how messy they get.
  9. you have multiplied you love with each child.
  10. your heart breaks for children in less loving situations.

 

I am a mom of three and these have been my own personal mommy moments 🙂 I greatly love my children!

Why I Want To Be…..

 

 

4.) If you had to choose a Disney princess to live the rest of your life as…which princess would you choose and why?

 

This was a question poised to me courtesy of Mama’s Losing It blog. I had to call my Daughter , HoneyBear, to come help me. 🙂 She picked Cinderella. Her reasoning (in her own words):

  1. She lives in a big, pretty mansion
  2. She’s in love with a very handsome Prince
  3. She gets a Fairy Godmother.

Such wisdom. I would love a big house, maybe not a mansion but one big enough for a library (wait, I guess that’s the Beast’ mansion he he) . However I already have my handsome prince but it is still nice  for an 9 yr old to dream.

Now, a fairy godmother would be heavenly!!  Someone to pop in now and then and “Bibbidi-bobbidi-boo” away my worries. Or when I need a new dress. Or even someone to have a cup of coffee with when I ma bored 🙂

 

 

Story Telling Music

5.) List the songs that tell your life story (so far). (inspired by Moments That Define Life)

1) Intervention The Arcade Fire

Working for the church
While your family dies
You take what they give you
And you keep it inside
Every spark of friendship and love
Will die without a home
Hear the soldier groan, “We’ll go at it alone”

** With the chance of sounding bitter (which I am not) but having come out from a religious origination and being hurt this one

really speaks to my heart. I love God with all my heart but as for man-made religion, it’s just not for me right now.**

2)Secrets by One Republic

I need another story
Something to get off my chest
My life gets kinda boring
Need something that I can confess
‘Til all my sleeves are stained red

From all the truth that I’ve said
Come by it honestly I swear
Thought you saw me wink, no
I’ve been on the brink, so

Tell me what you want to hear
Something that will light those years
Sick of all the insincere
So I’m gonna give all my secrets away

**This one speaks to me because I don’t want any secrets in my life.

I want my life to be an open book that people look at and know exactly who I am.

I want my husband to know exactly who, what, where, and why I do things.

A marriage can’t last if there is no trust. If there is no open heart communication.**

3)We Are Young by Fun

Tonight
We are young
So let’s set the world on fire
We can burn brighter than the sun

**This is such a fun song. I know it has a totally different meaning then my life but

the above lyrics speak to me. I am young. So I am 30 yrs old, have been married 11 yrs, and have 3 children the oldest who is 9.

Tonight, I am young! I am going to enjoy life to the fullest! I will set the world on fire with my passion, and love for my family!

Together, my family and I can burn brighter then the sun when all else fails and everyone leaves!**

Cookies

1.) If you had one day to eat anything you want and not gain a single ounce what would it be? (inspired by The Coffee Pot Chronicles)

I would say I have a few foods/sweet, mainly sweets, on my Kryptonite food list. What is a kryptonite food list? A food/sweet, mostly sweet,  where I lose all control and must eat it and lots  :~

And the number 1 spot goes to: ….

THE CHOCOLATE CHIP COOKIE

Doesn’t that just make your mouth water?

How many of us are now going in search of or will start baking these delicious, mouthwatering, sugar inducing coma cookies!!?

I cannot each just one either.

When I bake I usually only make 2 dozen.

The kids (I have 3) get 4 each, I get the whole other dozen……

Yea, now you know why I wish that these would be calorie free.

Mommy’s Role

 

2.) Write about a time How you pretended to be someone you aren’t.

 

When I saw the prompt at first I was like “I don’t usually pretend to be someone else, even by accident”.  Skip that prompt.  But then I got thinking of things I do pretend to be daily -cook ,teacher. I had wanted to write on the topic of mommy role’s for a while so I though this would be a good opportunity.

1)  Loving, Caring and wanting to be a Stay-at-Home MOM

okay, I know how this sounds but have you ever woke up on the wrong side of the bed. Or Have you ever had a nice, peaceful , quiet half hour before you children wake up, only to have  your child wake up on the wrong side of the bed. And is quite determined NOT to obey AT ALL during the day…..  Yea, that’s why some days I have to work/pretend that I do love my kids, and that I do want to be a stay-at-home mom.

I also find that anger seems to be the predominant emotion many, many times. When children spill their milk, when they don’t want to be schooled, when they track mud through a clean floor -or even an already muddy floor -we, as mom’s, always seem to respond in anger!! I have found my blood pressure rising and me yelling before my brain kicks and tells me “it’s okay she didn’t mean it. Why are you yelling, they are only 7. They have to learn the same life  lessons you learned…”

Those are times when I need to learn how to fake love. A phoney smile quickly becomes real when it is reflected from your child’s face. A few deep breathes (or many deep breathes) to calm the storm brewing in my heart while I try to pretend to not be mad.  Yes, our children should see us mad at some things but for the most part I overact way to much!!

2)Teacher

I homeschool my children. As a result have have “researched” homeschooling -methods, curriculum, facts that they will grow up to be normal. 🙂 I would love to be a teacher ….wait, I would love to have a classroom complete with posters, desks, “fun” projects…. but children scare me.  I would love for children to sit and be little robots -that would make my life easier. Alas they are not and so have a mind of their own. And trying to corral that little wayward mind gives me too much of a headache :~

Anyway back to homeschooling my kids. I have discovered after trail and error through the last 2 years, that I am a mom that does best with boxed curriculum.  Now I still don’t believe in just giving them the Lightunits and have them teach themselves -I believe in working with them. I want to know what they think and if they have an interest and are they getting it.  And each day I pretend to do this. I pretend cause it is easier to say “go, play” then it is to teach. It is easier to give them the curriculum and say “teach yourself” then to make sure they are learning.

I am also a teacher of life -or at lest I pretend to. I stay at home and homeschool my kids cause I want them to know about life. I want them to know how people function in the real word. I want them to have manners and be considerate of others.  Yes, I know some public school kids that are very nice and well-behaved (my step-nephew is one) but I believe it is my job. And why do I have to pretend? Cause sometimes it’s easier to tell them “go,play” It is easier to send them outdoors so I can clean. It is easier to say “let’s watch a movie” then it is to say let’s learn about x,y or z.

3)Judge, Jury, and Executioner

I hate being a judge. Someone always ends up crying in the end. So I skip the judging part and just be jury. I listen. I listen to both sides of the part. I ask question about what they think should happen or who started it.

Then I execute. Sometimes that involves a “don’t bother me, go,play”  Most times though I set a timer. 15 min for you to play with toy, then switch. Works like a charm!! In fact they do it themselves. If one really wants on the computer they will say “I am setting the times” then everyone knows to share!!

Inevitably someone does end up crying or pouting on the couch but that is short lived. It is very boring to pout alone when others are having fun outside!!

4)Maid a.k.a. Keeper at Home

This is one I struggle with all the time.  I have figured out that I just don’t like the monotony of it. It is the same things to clean over and over. Gets kinda of boring after awhile. Then I go insane thinking about doing it for the rest of my life!!!

*deep breath*   Okay. I love my family. I, myself,really want a clean house.  So I guess someone has to clean it. (no husband discussion here for that is another story and I ma talking about me here) But wait!! I have 3 able bodied children who are now old enough to help me clean! Yea. They make a mess they clean it up. I make a mess, I show them how I am responsible enough to clean up  😉 Should work that way right.  Except that is where the teacher part comes in and I have to teach everyone of us how to clean (cause I ma a lazy, messy housewife but getting better all the time!!) Then sometimes it is easier to say …you guessed it “go and play” !

Brain storm idea – maybe I should pretend I have a job. My mom is a cleaning lady. Goes in from  1-3 hours to clean. Maybe I should do that. Go outside, put my brain to cleaning mode, go inside and clean for an hour, then outside to congratulate myself .  Do you think that’ll work 🙂 hehehe

 

Anyway, some days I have to pretend to do some of the roles I am in. For who am I? I am a person who loves to read! I could read all day. then go to the library and borrow some more. I love to surf the internet and find online friends for I am a terrible shy person. I would love to send my kids to school, tidy the house, read, walk the dog, kids come home, supper for hubby when he comes home, and an evening as a family.  But that would appeal to my lazy side . I have a “job” to do. My children are my responsibility and I am here to raise them, teach them, and hopefully they will grow up to be adults!!  🙂  🙂

Thanks for reading!

 

 

Grandmother’s House

Once upon a time ( 15yrs ago)  in a far away land (k it wasn’t that far, just a 2 or less hour drive)  stood a house in a little village. Dwelling in that house were my Grandparents from my dad’s side. Their  names were Grandpa and Grandma Bridges. This is their story. This is the story of their house. This is a story of their love.

When I was growing up I had a mom and a dad and 3 siblings. We lived in a small town far away from my grandparents. I could only see them on weekends. For every weekend we would take a trip to see them. The trip was long and boring and I was always getting yelled at. But who an blame a child for not being able to sit still for 2 hrs (this was waaaay before DVDs in vehicles was even though of!!  😉 haha Then sudden off in the distance you would see a grain elevator!! That was our sign that we had 10 min tops and we were there!! Finally, we got to pile out of the vehicle and run into the house and into the arms of my grandmother!!

We got to spend a whole weekend there in the comfort of Grandparents. A whole weekend in a spotless house (my mom kept a rather untidy house) , watching TV or playing outside, and eating good food (cause that is what grandparents are for). When my parents separated when I was 9, It got so that Grandma’s house was home. I remember spending whole weeks during the summer.  It was heaven.

My grandmother was a big woman -tall and plump. She loved books like I did -only hers were western romance :~  She would read those trashy, celebrity magazines. She introduced me to word search puzzles. She threatened me with a flyswatter to the backside if I was bad. That always did the trick for I never wanted her to be mad at me. Grandpa had a stroke when I was young so I remember him around some but always in a wheelchair or visiting at the hospital-turned-old fold’s home. They loved me unconditionally and never had a problem welcoming me into their home.

Grandma passed away when I was 15. We had to sell the house. I felt sad but more adrift in a sea of loneliness. I felt she was the only one who knew me and there were so many things I wanted to know as a young adult. Times when I need a refuge from my mom(teenage drama) I had none. I wanted to know about her past and by the time I was old enough to care the moment was gone. Grandpa passed away a few years later.

I still dream about the house. I still faintly dream of Her. I have more emotional ties still now then is probably good for me 🙂 Her house was home for me!! I love you Grandma!!

 

 

**** writing prompt :4.) Write a poem about a place you felt safe growing up.****

My Bouquet of Roses

Mama’s Losing It has a writer’s prompt every Thur. I chose this one:

4.) On The Bachelor a rose is given to the women he could really see himself spending the rest of his life with. What six things/people in your life would you like to give a rose to and why?

#1 – My Hubby. This is an easy one.We are going through some things and last night he asked “what if in a year from now you don’t like ‘the new me’? ” I paused for it got me thinking. Then I answered ‘you are more then just my Hubby, you are my friend, companionship, my lover, and protector of things that go bump in the night’.  He laughed at the last one 😀  I love him tremendously!!

#2 – My Children. HoneyBear, CaptainJr. and Superhero! They fulfill me me. They make me laugh, smile, frown, and wonder why I have no sanity left! hahahaha  Some days I love staying home with them, homeschooling them, and raising them. Other days.well we don’t talk about those days 🙂

#3 – My Books. yes that is in the top three. Books are my escape from reality. They are always there with a story to cheer me up. I love the look and feel of a book as I go sit down to open the first time.  the anticipation of when I am in the middle of a good story and can’t wait to see what happens. The sadness of knowing a story is finished!

#4 – My Pets. I have 2 pets. A cat by the name of Buck. He is an old man now -13yrs. He is a grey tabby that now sleeps all day, mainly on the heat register. He is always crying for more food. He still has enough spunk to fight the dog when given a chance or at the very lest, growls very loudly. I have a dog by the name of Midnight. She is a black lab cross. She is 2 yrs old. She is a wonderful dog, good with babies, kids, and adults.  She will try so hard to crawl into your lap to cuddle.   I love both my pets!!

#5 – The Internet. Yes, I realize this makes me kinda shallow but the internet is my connection to other people. I am a very shy person and a bit of a loner. By being on the internet and finding different forums I have a  connection to other people. Also by having a blog I am getting my voice out there and “meeting” new people! The internet helps me find new recipes, definitions for words, how-to helps, and enjoy different genres of music!! I guess it helps expand my world a bit!!

#6 – Modern Conveniences. I like running water. I like lights that flip on at the touch of a switch. I like throwing clothes in the washer, or dryer, and viola, they’re clean and nice smelling! I like cellphones a.k.a. smartphones! All these things and more. I couldn’t not imagine living like they did not so long ago. Thank you all you wonderful inventors!!