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A New Me – Conclusion

I have taken part in the 5Weeks -5 Disciplines-5 Challenges over at Women Living Well. I have done all 5 weeks, and completed all 5 challenges. Being the procrastinator that I am, here is my conclusion to everything:

  1. Body. Challenge:name a healthy habit and stick to it. I wanted to drink more water and as a result have been feeling so much better. My moods have been slightly better too.
  2. Time. Challenge:priorities and making a list. I have seen what my priorities are. Seems some of my priorities are ones that should be in the background and some of the ones I should be doing are lacking. Therefore I have made a list. Am I doing it? most days yes!
  3. Spirit. Challenge:spend time with God before anything else. This I am still sadly failing. BUT on a plus side, I have bought a few new Bibles(rather then my KJVs), an ESV, and NIV. Also I have bought a Child Training Bible or CTB and will be participating in a Bible study of sorts throughout the summer!
  4. Mind. Challenge:eliminate one unnecessary thing out of your life. This was the hardest challenge for it dealt with keeping your mind uncluttered, and sometimes that means your surroundings. I have cleaned my bedroom (and kept it clean) so when I sleep at night it is a haven. I have been keeping my surroundings fairly clean in order to have a peaceful environment.
  5. Work. Challenge:work with eager hands. I put a twist on this challenge.  Seeing as how I am always busy anyway (or at lest it feels that way) I wanted to work with  the children. Our children require work on our part. The just don’t grow up left to their own devices.  We need to work on them -their attitudes, socialization, responsibility. These things we need to teach them. It is easy to say “go play while mommy does this” but to involve them is so much harder and requires work on our part.  Am I still working with and on my children? Everyday.

2 Weeks to a New Me

 

Wow, this week went by really fast. I am so behind on this post but here it is! This is the last challenge, yet I want to do one more week to sum up all the challenges!

 

Week 5 Challenge:
Work with eager hands this week!  Pray and ask God to give you an eager attitude all day long.  Do your work as unto the Lord.  Remember the meaning behind your work in the home – all of it added up equals a well nurtured home and family.  Research and find inspiration in magazines or on-line.  Find a woman with eager hands and learn off of her.   If all day long you have been feeding and caring for babies, listening, comforting, training, teaching, cooking and cleaning – you will be tired.  REST – guilt-free!  God does not condemn rest – he condemns laziness (2 Thess. 3:10).

 

This week has been very busy. It is one of those weeks were it seems like I can never catch up on housework.  But I am slowly tiding it up. You see, I am a lazy person. There I said it but I am. I love to read, to watch ,movies, to surf the web yet those things never bring a deep satisfaction in myself. Only be cleaning my house and having a clean, not spotless, environment do I feel truly pleased with myself.

 

However I want to talk ,not about  physical work, but more about mental and emotional work.  You see when I was planning this blog post way back on Mon. I was fighting a child to do school. I homeschool you see. And all I could thing was ‘it takes work to raise children’. I guess that is why it says in Prov 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

I have found it is easy to say ‘go play’. It is easy to say ‘let them play, I’ll clean this mess up’. It easy to sit back and NOT get your child involved in things because things go smoother when they are not underfoot. Remember when I said I was lazy… well, I find myself weighting choices ‘If I call my child he/she will throw a fit. Then I’ll have to deal with the fit plus deal with what chore I want them to do *sigh* I will just let them play’.  I am here to tell myself that this is WRONG!! It makes things harder because then your children *ahem one little stubborn boy* know which buttons he can push.

When I homeschool it takes work to discipline myself to sit with them. It takes work to set aside my self, my desire, my house cleaning and focus on them and their education! All this is a GOOD thing! It brings satisfaction to know that I have done something even if it has been a bad day.

Anyway in case this post is rambling on the point is: it takes work to raise, educate and involve your child!

My Challenges this week (which I have been doing)

  • Involve the child with chores. They live here, they make most of the mess, they can learn to clean up.
  • Start doing school regular in the mornings. Discipline myself and grow a backbone. 🙂  This is about so much more then just education. It’s about learning life skills.
  • Work on attitudes(then and mine). I want all of us to be a happy family. I want all of us to be “good” citizens and an asset to the community.

 

 

3 weeks to a New Me!

Week 1 : Body

Week 2: Time

Week 3: Spirit

Week 4: Mind

Week  4′s Challenge:

Prayfully identify one unnecessary thing you can eliminate from your life.  Is there a room, cupboard or closet you need to clean out?  Clean it out this week!  If clutter is not an issue for you – maybe it’s your calender.  Is it so jam packed full with to-do’s that there’s no room for you to think and pray clearly?  Prayfully eliminate something from your calender.  Are you spending too much time on your computer, ipad or watching too much television?  Choose to limit your time this week – in exchange for some quiet moments of reflection, being in God’s word, praying or reading a mind enriching book.

This couldn’t come at a better time. I have been for some time feeling overwhelmed with my days. I want to spend my early mornings, before kids up, with my computer. Catch up on forums, see how people are doing witht heir blogs, write my in my blog, and internet surf. Then when the  kids get up I walk away and start my day!

That’s the plan and for three months I have always started my day with this lie. I’ll try it again. Today will be different.  Yet it has not gotten better.

We have learned last challenge to start our day in God’s Word. *check* The children have been getting up earlier with it being spring turning summer. So breakfast time *check* . Then and only then can I send them off to play while I have computer time. *check*  Then around 9-9:30 we should be able to start our day!

 

There it is folks: my plan of attack.  And seeing as how this Tue I better get cracken 🙂

4 Weeks to a new me

Week 3′s Challenge:
Purpose to not read ANYTHING else before you have read God’s word for at least 1 minute in the morning. Do not read the newspaper, facebook, a spiritual devotional or check your email. Go straight to God’s word first. And in case you think 1 minute seems a bit stingy with our time – I want to suggest – that once you get started most likely you will go for much longer than 1 minute. But I want this to be doable. After reading your Bible, I encourage you to leave your Bible in the kitchen open and everytime you walk past it, pause to read it for 15 seconds and then go on. Squeeze all the nourishment you can out of the scriptures you are reading.

This may be the hardest post I write. I want to be honest. I want to share with you my dilemma.

Let me start with a story. Once upon a long time ago there lived a lost adolescent girl.  That girl was me.  Her mother took her to the “true” Baptist church in town. The girl hated it. She liked pants but her mother was “convicted” to be skirts only.  The teenage girl liked worldly music but that was from the devil. The teenage girl like public school but her mother was convinced that she must homeschool and therefore put her into the church school. Remeber: I was lost, angry, and mother and I had major issues to begin with.

So from the ages of 12-17 I was rebellious. I hated my life and made sure everyone knew it. Then the month that right before I was 17, God saved me. God reached down and touch my lost soul. God replaced my cold,angry, black heart with a heart of love, peace and forgiveness.  I was able to love for the first time. I was able to really smile and enjoy life. I wanted to be good and to do good. I wanted to please my Lord and Savior.

When I was 20, I married my best friend. He also attended this church and we knew each other since like forever 🙂 Our parents were best friends (still are) and our families were always together on holidays, and even regular days.  My mom didn’t like him because he was open-minded( he would speak his mind), opinionated, and didn’t listen a.k.a. bow down to her.  He also wasn’t the “perfect” Christian she thought I should marry (another story right there) But we married anyway.

Then came the next 10 years of married life, 3 children  in a row, and reality. I was content to live a Christian life. I wanted to do good and follow the rules.

Let me explain a bit about the church before continuing with my story.. The church is an independent, fundamental, baptist church, otherwise know as a cult. Yes, I said it. It is a cult.  It was founded 20+ years ago with the purest intents but has morphed into something different. You get baptist to become a member. And member you are in the fullest sense. They say they have no rules but there are. There are the articles of faith, and the covenant they have as a church. It is the way everyone looks at you when you do something different from the other. It is skirts only and woe is you if you are feel that wearing pants is okay. If you don’t put your kids in the church school they will have nothing to do with you. They have an inside circle and woe is you if you are not fully part of them. If you speak up and out against anything then yo, yourself must not be right. Cause everyone else believes it why don’t you.

Anyway you get the point. My husband is not a Christian. There I said it. I finally let the world know.  And for 10 years he has tried to hide that fact. Why? My hubby loves me fully. He wanted me to be happy. And I was ignorantly happy in the church. I wanted to wear skirts and be happy. I wanted people to like me and forgave them when they hurt me. I wanted to please God and felt this was the only way how. I have shed many, many tears because of  that church tried to mold my family into something that it was not. Anytime I wanted godly council for the pastor all I got was how bad my hubby was and *I* should be more spiritual and take away all the evil from my home (evil being movies and the internet) Finally it all came to a head when the pastor asked/told me “God or your husband”. I was floored. I truly felt that God gave me my husband, Yes my husband my not be a Christian but he loves me, works hard to provide me material things, and actually wants to spend time with me!! I am truly, truly blessed having such a wonderful Husband!!

So we left that church. We are now blackballed, and ex-communicated from our family. Our family thinks that church discipline works and must have “no fellowship” with us. Yea, that’s another story too.

I wrote you my story because of the challenge this week: to read the word of God. I did the Study of Eph with Good Morning Girls and it was a balm to my soul. Hubby doesn’t want me to go back to church, any church right now. And quite frankly neither do I. I am scared to go back into that world even knowing it will vastly different then the Baptist cult.  I was a KJV only girl and have always enjoyed reading it. Now I am scared. I am scared of what I’ll find. I am scared that I will read it and only be able to see what I have been taught for the last 18yrs and not what God would have me see. I am thinking of switching versions. I have a wonderful friend who I met through the baptist church. She too has left and is now going to a wonderful church where she can be herself. She uses a different version and is trying to convince me it is okay  😀

SO I think my challenge for this week is to get me another Bible. I also have a few daily devotion books, and “The One Year Bible” (KJV) broken into daily scripture. Maybe I just need to start praying again. I know God hasn’t left me.

Thank you for reading about my story, my dilemma, my conflict.   🙂

5 Weeks to a New Me!!

I took this challenge last week, written HERE.   Review:

Week 1 Challenge:  Name 1 healthy habit that you would like to work on establishing in your life over the next 5 weeks.  I did very well this past week. Until I came to the weekend. You all know how it is when Hubby is home. I feel like I deserve a “Break” too and therefore everything seems to be put to the side. And I mean everything. That includes diet and drinking my water :~ So this next weekend is when I shall smarten up. 🙂

 

 

Week 2 – Challenge:
1.  Sit down and look at your calendar.  Think about your priorities.

2.  Pray and ask God to give you wisdom as to what you should be doing with your time.
3.  Write out a list of what you need to get done this week – don’t forget to write in time with God!  (you can use the free printable below as a guide :) !)
4.  Every morning this week, look over your to-do list.  Pray and ask God for wisdom.  Add, take away or move things on your list accordingly.
5. Continue this discipline next week and the week after.  Soon you will find order and rhythm to your days and weeks.

 

I needed some time to think about this particular challenge. I have had a few things in my life that I have been wanting/needing to change. This challenge will hopefully help me change and change now.

1. Think about your priorities.

  1. Communication with God. I need to do more. Now the the study of Eph is done, I need to spent my own time just talking with God and listening to Him. Getting help for the day, learning how to raise kids, and be a better person!
  2. School work. This shall be my first priority for the daily grind. I need to get back into a schedule. I need to do it in the mornings starting at 9 instead of web surfing, blogging, or even chores. Those things can come later and should not be first.Education should be important. I believe that education happens in life but I also believe a bit of textbook work won’t hurt them in the least
  3. Laundry. I am one of those moms who are forever behind in laundry. That is not necessarily a bad thing since we,as moms, have a household to run but when boys continually have no socks to wear well…I need to do better. I need to do laundry on a regular bases and not when we run out of clothes.   :~

Those are my 3 top difficulties right now. The top 3 I really, really need to work on.

2. Look over you to-do list.

I think my daily to-do list would go something like this:

  • 7 a.m. quiet time for mommy
  • 8 a.m. children up, breakfast, dressed, hair brushed, and bedroom chores
  • 9 a.m.-9:30 a.m. free time
  • 9:30 a.m. -12 a.m.  school
  • 12 -lunch
  • 1 a.m. M/W/F movie time (children) workout and shower (mommy)
  • 1 T/T p.m. or 2p.m. chores, free time
  • 4:30 p.m. make supper

This is the schedule I already loosely follow. I need to reinforce school time and add laundry to the list of chores I do on a regular bases!  I shall start today!

6 Weeks to a New Me!!

I don’t normally talk about my diet or workouts on my blog. I am so inconsistent and wonder “who would read about me lifting weights anyway?”  🙂  Yet when the Lord Jesus speaks to you it’s kinda hard to ignore. You see today I had wanted to start a “strictish” 6 week diet. I wanted to lose my last 5lbs and I just needed to get serious and do it. Then when I checked my email this morning I saw:

 

I thought “wow this would be a great help to me for the next 6 weeks. 5 weeks to do the challenge and the sixth to reinforce it all!!”  So without further ado CHALLENGE #1

 

 

Week 1 Challenge:

Name 1 healthy habit that you would like to work on establishing in your life over the next 5 weeks.  It could be cutting back on junk food, fast food, or soda pop.  It could be to exercise more, drink more water, or get more sleep.  Name it in the comments section…often times we are more apt to follow through on committments when we have told someone else!

 

MY CHALLENGE: DRINK MORE WATER

I find that unless I make a conscious effort to remember, record and take note of how many glasses I drink I only average about 3 or 4 glasses a day. Way to little. And my body tells me that through headaches or gas pains :~ So along with my note book of food logging I also record my water intake. I am picking up my notebook, dusting it off, creaking it open and writing in it   😉  hehe  Today (it is 10:30) I have 1 glass of water. Oh and the other thing I do to drink more water is: I grab a glass for the day that equals 1 cup. Then I fill it up and stick it on the counter by itself so everyone knows that’s my glass. Then when I finish the water, I fill it up again right away and record it. That way I always have water on the counter -no lazy excuses 🙂

Would you care to join me? What would your habit be? Do you drink enough water? 🙂   I’ll keep you  updated. Thanks for reading!! 🙂 🙂