There is no such thing as “can’t”. It is either “I don’t want to” or “I need help”.
This is one that I quote all the time. When I first started schooling or probably even before that, I realized something. Whenever the kids were saying “I can’t” it was usually followed with a temper, an explosion of anger. That’s when I first starting making this quote up. I knew when they COULD do something but didn’t want to, I would tell you “yes you can”. Or if they truly needed help then I reminded them that I am here to help you just have to ask. I am hoping after quoting this constantly for 5 or so yrs now that it will sink in. I am hoping that by the time they are teenagers or young adults that this will have sunk into their brain and maybe make life a little easier.
I can’t magically make ???? appear
My children are stubborn. They get it from their father 😉 I genuinely hate when they are being stubborn, and throwing a fit over something I can’t fix or change. Like if we run out of cereal before the last child has a chance to eat. I’m sorry I can’t make cereal magically appear on the table. Or when a pair of pants is discovered too small and they want new pants RIGHT NOW. I am sorry I can’t magically make pants appear. It is not possible for me to run out either and just buy stuff for them. Or the other thing is when something is not working. I can’t magically make something work. Sure I can try to make it work and fiddle around with stuff but it”s beyond my control I can’t magically make it work. Life lesson -sometimes we have to do without. It sucks and not very nice but that’s life.
Live and Learn
This one is mostly for my Hubby and I. Now that we are adrift and trying to anchor our feet down some I am finding I am using this one more. You hang around someone thinking they are your friend, only to realize you don’t want them around anymore. Live and learn. You realize you overspend on something. Live and learn so next time, or even as an example to your kids, you’ll know not to spend. I hope too that I can start using this one on the kids. For how else are we to learn from our mistakes if we don’t go out and live life! Life is like education -you gotta do something in order for you to observe the knowledge that’s out there. Sometimes/mostly it’s bad but there are a lot of good out there too.
Homeschool is an extension of our parenting
This one I use constantly when talking about our children’s education choices. When we first had my daughter it was understood between my husband and I that I would stay-at-home and raise the. Then when she hit 5 I realized that I had to make a decision regarding her schooling. Now I think I have always been drawn to big public school like classrooms. I wanted that in my own home -chalkboards and posters, arts, crafts the works. A big room just for school also filled with books (still waiting on this dream to come 😉 ) But when push came to shove I realized I wasn’t ready to let my little 5/6 yr. old girl go out into the big wide world of school and I still wanted her home with me. I realized that as they all got older – that education is so much more then academics, it is about life skills. Plus they way Hubby and I want to raise our children and what we want to teach them differs from public school. Homeschooling was never a choice really, it was just an extension of our parenting.