who is my best friend? My Hubby
PART 2 . Part 1 is written here
Eph. 5: 22-33Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
I love color coding. It brings out so much:
- green – two shall become one
- blue – husbands are supposed to LOVE their wives
- red – wives are to submit yet reverence/respect their husbands
Today, however, I want to talk about the HEAD OF THE HOME. As Christians we tend to throw that phrase around lots. The Husband is to be the head or leader or commander of the house. We, as wives, are equal to him but everything rests on his shoulders. I thought that same way for 9 yrs or more. I have always came back with “well you’re the head” -all in a happy tone, truly!! 🙂
Then one day my sweet Hubby told me “I don’t like that phrase -head of the home. We are a partnership” My mouth dropped whaaaaat?? This was the weirdest “Bible problem” to be had in our house. My hubby didn’t like being head or leadership , he looked at us together and saw that we ought to do things and make decisions together!!
This shouldn’t surprise me though. Even when we were courting He was very much “what do you want, where do you want to go” kinda guy. Still is. Most decisions have always been with Him asking Me. I told him my ideas, plans, thoughts, then we act together. A few times he would tease about not buying something cause I talked him out of it. (this is a good thing).
My Hubby loves me. He shows me every day. He is definitely NOT romantic, never any flowers or cards, but always lots of smiles,hugs, and touches. He enjoys my company! I in turn try to reverence/respect him. I may not keep the cleanest house but I stay home and raise his kids. I have hot meals ready for him when he walks in the door. Our relationship works cause we want to please the other. SO it should only be natural that we work together to be one. That we work together to make decisions that we both want. yes, it’s give and take sometimes. I want something so he finds a way to get it, or he wants to do something so I let him 🙂
Just recently I was in a conundrum. He wanted to take me to Cuba! My heart stopped. we have financial problems and Cuba is not on the list.
Cold/level-headed me : what you are insane! we are not going to Cuba, we are paying bills and blah blah blah
sweet/submissive/Christian me: wow. when does a hubby come home and say “let’s go to Cuba” I should really just submit to him”
SO what do I do? First I kinda brought up some thoughts with him. Then I phoned a girl- friend and freaked out at her. After talking with her I combined both earlier responses -I talked ,nicely, to my Hubby. We were at the park watching kids play. I told him that I loved him and would love to go to Cuba but… And the best thing about my Hubby is that he had those same concerns. And wasn’t about to throw caution to the wind just cause. Whew a load off my back. So I have no idea if we are going to Cuba but at lest we talked about our problems and how much we would love to go except for all the “buts” in the way 🙂
Anyway, my hubby and I have come to a silent agreement. No more heads, no more one person leading but together as a team we will raise our kids, sink or swim, and love each other more. We will strive to please the other. We will strive to forgive (sometimes more then possible;) ). We will fight to always stay together!! we are Best Friends!!!!!!!